What I Would Have Told Her

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Looking at her made my breathing go shallow. Her whole demeanour shouted restraint, self-criticism, anxiety and yet she thought she was hiding it so well underneath that forced smile, that nonchalant masculine attitude and that layer of just a little bit too much body fat. She thought nobody noticed how she was beating herself up […]
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I’m Happy I Got Anxiety Disorder

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If I saw this title back when I still was stuck in anxiety disorder, I’d feel shocked. And I’d open the post and read it. And that’s why I named it so, because it’s the only way to reach women in a similar situation and share the following message of hope. Dear, dear precious, tiny […]
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My Five Favourite Spots in Florence

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Having lived in Florence since 2010, I know my way around here pretty well by now and I know what places manage to maintain a high standard throughout time. I’ve come to make a selection of places that I just know are always there when you need them; a good cup of coffee, a perfect […]
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Five Signs You’re Becoming a Little Too Italian

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I’m afraid I’ve become a little too Italian after eight years of living in Florence, Italy. I’m Dutch and we’re known for being fun, yet cold, extremely practical and straightforward (read: blunt). Italians are known for being warm, creative (a positive way to describe disorganised) with a great sense for aesthetics (they like fare una […]
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The Art of Saying No

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Saying no is a gift; both to yourself as to the other person. Now you might be wondering why The YES Woman in person is writing a post on The Art of Saying No. Well, because saying no to others means saying yes to yourself; and so it is a positive thing in the end. […]
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Life in Italy Is for You If…

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Life in Italy is not for everyone. It requires a lot of psychological flexibility, perseverance and adaptation abilities. On the other hand, if you’re a woman on a mission and are willing to do whatever it takes to make your dream of living in Italy come true, then nothing can get in your way, right? […]
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I Want to Move to Italy – Now What?

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So, you’ve finally admitted it to yourself: you want to move to Italy and start afresh there. It’s a place that lights you up like no other. You just feel happier there and can’t even explain why. You just feel good, really good. Bene. Now what? Well, let me share how I did it in […]
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How to Be Happy

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2017 has been a pretty spectacular year: I travelled to Hawaii, Mallorca and Paris. I found my dream home in Florence, I grew my business into a really enjoyable and successful venture and – last but not least – I found the man of my dreams. Now, this might sound like I was born with […]
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Life in Florence; Go With the Flow

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Me at 9.30am, looking at my schedule for the day: English lesson at 12pm, coffee meeting at 2.30pm, walking coaching session at 4pm and an aperitivo with a friend at 8.30pm. Phone lights up: “Sorry my English teacher, I cannot do my lesson today, I have a meeting. I contact you. Good day.” Alright, I […]
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How to Live Your Very Own Renaissance in Florence

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It all started with a breakdown. A moment in which I crossed my own boundaries and betrayed my partner of six years. It was a painful wakeup call which showed me the crystal clear truth: that I wasn’t happy. I wasn’t enjoying life anymore. I wasn’t really living. This moment of turmoil turned a separation […]
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This Is What Italy Will Take Away From You

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When I decided to move to Florence, Italy in 2010 I had no idea how much it would impact not only my life, but also my personality. I’m a completely different person now because of everything I’ve been through. I’ve had to adapt, change and creatively find ways to survive here. I’ve had to do […]
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Life in Italy – How Not to Lose Your Mind

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“Wow, you live in Italy? That must be such a dream life!” “Why on earth have you moved to Italy from the land of perfection Holland?” Two things I hear often; the first from people who don’t live in Italy, but love it, the second from people who live here and hate it. They are […]
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How to Make Life in Florence Work

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Living in Florence is many people’s dream, but actually making it happen – and making it work is a whole different kind of story. I can tell because I’ve been making it work since 2010 and can call myself a rather weathered Florentine expat. And the weather hasn’t always been bright and sunny the way […]
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Why Life in Florence Makes Perfect Sense to Me

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Holland has never really made sense to me. Instead of lifting my spirits up, it took them down. Instead of nurturing me, it drained me. Instead of flourishing, I was wilting. I felt more and more out of place; I was that weird woman who didn’t fit in because she wanted more than the nine-to-five, […]
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Set Yourself Free from Self-Doubt

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“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” I could stop here. Leave you with this message. But had I read this while I was still imprisoned by my anxiety disorder, I would’ve thought: “Great, wonderful, another quote that rings true, but HOW do I get rid of the self-doubt so I can start going […]
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How to Deal with Fear

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Fear can either be your friend or foe – it totally depends on how you choose to look at it. It used to be my worst enemy while I was suffering from anxiety disorder for seven long years. I wrote all about that in this post and how it kept me stuck, circling round and […]
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How to Be True to Yourself

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When he asked me to marry him, I said I had to think about it. When it took me a little bit too long to answer, I realised I wasn’t really into the relationship anyway and I broke up with him. This is more or less what happened when the people at my co-working space […]
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Dare Do You

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You have one life so you might it as well live it to the fullest. But what does that mean, living life to the fullest? It means doing what you really want to do and being who you really want to be. It means being you and doing you – all the way. I am […]
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Believing in Yourself Is Bullshit

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It’s like saying: “I first need to believe in myself before I do anything at all. And since I don’t believe in myself I’ll just stay stuck.” That is creating an excuse, a block that doesn’t need to be there – at all. And what does it mean to believe in yourself anyway? To know […]
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Take No Crab

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How to not let crabs – or anything else for that matter – get between you and your mission. After a two-hour train ride, walking down a very narrow path between rocks that functioned to cover up the sewers – yep, there’s the crap – I finally found a place where I could sit with […]
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Stop Worrying, Start Living

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I remember sitting in the garden, head down, staring at my lap, stuck in my head, fighting my thoughts and feeling desperation taking over once again. I wrote the following words in my diary: “I wonder, what wonder will one day help me stop wondering.” Simple maybe, but it showed exactly how I felt. I […]
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What on Earth Am I Doing in Florence?

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I felt inspired to write this post because many of the wonderful women in my network either live in or desire to live in the city that I can fortunately call my home: Florence. I wish to give them a perspective that might make their move to Florence or their Florentine life a little easier. Accept or […]
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Women Are Weak

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Women Are Weak Or so I thought. I thought being a girl was a synonym for being weak, I thought it meant being less than, being too sensitive and therefore a burden. I thought it was wrong to be weak, so at an incredibly young age I decided I wanted to be a boy. And […]
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This Is How I Met the Love of My Life

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It felt like I’d been looking for the love of my life from the very moment I was born. Every face and every circumstance would provide me with another chance to find him; to finally feel complete, whole and give meaning to my life. My heart and soul were aching for it every step of […]
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I Just Want to Be Fucking Free

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I Just Want to Be Fucking Free Free to roam the streets without anyone seeing me. Free to live out loud and to sit with myself silently. Free to ask for what I need and receive it unapologetically. Free to go to places and walk till I hit the sea. Free to fully let go […]
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Why You Should Just Do It

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Because if you don’t, then you’ll never know. And if there’s one thing that people regret most on their deathbed it’s exactly that: regret. The thing is that in the present moment, our minds create huge mountains out of molehills and literally keep us stuck. They want to keep us safe, free from harm – […]
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What the Hell Are You Doing?

Many people have been asking me this question lately and, to be honest, I’ve been asking myself the same from time to time. In this vlog I talk about what the hell I’m actually doing & why. Enjoy watching it and let me know what you think!
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What You Have to Do When on Holiday

Do you feel stressed on holiday because of all the things you feel you need to do? Do you feel guilty for not enjoying it enough or are you afraid to be missing out? Well, how about tending to your own needs first and then, only when you’re ready and have your energy back, start […]
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How to Be a Yes Woman

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One of my favourite films is Yes Man with Jim Carrey. In the film he basically goes from avoiding life to saying yes to everything that crosses his path. The result is often absurd and hilarious – otherwise of course good ol’ Jim wouldn’t be in this film in the first place – but the […]
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A Little Secret About Fear

In this vlog I take you to my go to place in the Tuscan countryside to reflect away on the secret behind fear. We usually treat fear as our enemy, but what if being afraid could actually mean you’ve hit a pot of gold? Well, then it’s all about knowing how to deal with fear […]
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Dare To Be Ugly – It’s Beautiful

In this vlog I’m not wearing any make up and I have bags under my eyes due to lack of sleep. To be honest, it’s pretty scary to put it out there, but I felt I needed to because I want to invite you to embrace your so-called ugliness, in other words, your uniqueness and […]
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The Value of Being You

‘Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.’ This quote inspired me to shoot this little video and to ask you to reflect on what the value of being you actually is. Enjoy!
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Dear Fear

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Dear fear, You always show up when I need you least of all. You always try to ruin my plans, make my dreams sound ridiculous and stop me in my tracks. All you seem to want to do is keep me stuck where I am, in that incredibly uncomfortable comfort zone. Your joy is in […]
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Are You Keeping Yourself Unnecessarily Small?

What we believe about ourselves basically defines what our lives look like. So, consider this for a second: in what ways are you keeping yourself small? What beliefs do you hold about yourself that aren’t actually true? Pretty interesting to consider since it can bring about a great shift in your life! Coaching helps you […]
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How to Be Your Own Best Friend Forever in 7 Steps

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Like some of you might know, I’m writing a book about my experiences of trying to become my own best friend forever – my own BFF. Why? Because I strongly believe that the relationship we have with ourselves greatly, if not totally, influences our happiness & well-being. This is because it helps us become much […]
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What Do You Need?

What do you do when you’re feeling a little down? Chances are you beat yourself up for it. Why don’t you try this approach instead, it will help you feel better.
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Why It’s Good To Not Care Sometimes

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I’d describe myself as a very conscientious person. I tend to take others’ needs into account, to be considerate, understanding and aware of what my actions mean to other people. I believe this is a great personality trait, but it also means that I might not always do what I feel like doing. I sometimes […]
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My Life Sucks

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‘My life sucks and I can’t help it. It’s just that my parents did a really bad job at raising me since they always put my siblings first. Then, at school I always got the worst teachers and they would never let me express my true potential. I had some friends, but they let me […]
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The Ugly Truth About Happiness

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‘Pretty Hurts’ by Beyoncé starts like this: ‘What is your aspiration in life?’ ‘Well, my aspiration in life would be… to be happy.’ Every time I listen to this song when biking around Florence it resonates with me. I have exactly the same aspiration and try to do everything with this thought in mind. The […]
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This is how you get stuff done

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Sometimes we feel as if our life is covered in a thick layer of fog and there’s no clarity to be seen for miles. Many little things mess up our daily routine and create stress that keeps us from being in our flow and getting stuff done. We keep going around in circles and getting […]
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What does a coach do exactly?

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This is actually a very good question. Many people don’t have a clue of what a coach does exactly, so I thought it would be a good idea to shine some light on the matter. Now that I just wrote this last expression, I realized I already answered the question. Because ‘shining light on the […]
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